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Turn to Mediation to Help Fine Tune Your Divorce Party Etiquette

Divorce is all too easily associated with doom and gloom. It’s assumed that divorced people will bury themselves in Netflix and go underground to mourn the loss of their marriage. But with divorce parties, more and more people are bucking this stereotype by publicly celebrating the end of their marriage. Divorce parties now include “divorce showers” with gift registries for divorcing partners. It’s an idea that seems outlandish but is actually pretty sensible. Who could use positive feedback, support and new silverware more than a divorcing person?

The only issue with divorce celebrations is the problem of etiquette and sensitivity. Divorce involves two people who may be feeling differently about the end of the marriage. Divorce may also involve children who may be processing the divorce at different rates and in different ways.

Mediation Covers More than Your Divorce

Luckily if you are working through your divorce in mediation, there is a chance to factor these considerations into negotiations. If you’re having a divorce party for example, you can decide whether it will be in a neutral venue or in one of your homes. Will it be a “grownup”, raucous, divorce party for adults who want to let off steam? Or will it involve your kids and their friends? How would you like your divorcing spouse to handle the invitations/photos on social media? Should a divorce registry benefit you both?

Mediation is a process that can cover many aspects of a divorce, from the hard legal and financial aspects down to the way partners handle their divorces on social media and elsewhere. If you are both on the same page about a divorce celebration you can even include party planning in your negotiations. One benefit of divorce mediation over litigation is that it can cover many non-legal considerations. Another benefit is that divorcing partners can overcome emotional issues during negotiations. The mediators at BCS have psychoanalytical expertise that can locate the emotional truth of conflict in the mundane details you’re squabbling over. Seemingly frivolous events like divorce parties require planning and reflection and can actually be very positive for your divorce if handled with care.

Who We Are and How We Can Help  

We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Conflict analysis can result in a more optimized understanding of the net community property, which adds value to the overall estate, benefiting you both. The sooner you can resolve your conflict, the sooner you can begin to craft a sustainable future for you and your children. Divorce planning can include costs like divorce celebrations, graduations and even your adult child’s wedding. Our specially trained divorce mediator-accountants can also help reveal and investigate the proven financial facts of a divorce to make a full financial appraisal of your divorce and to suggest creative solutions for financial planning after divorce. Our high-level divorce mediation services are tailored to the needs of people with complex lives or divorces that may be difficult or protracted. We can intervene to break litigation deadlocks when divorces are already underway. We work with individuals from several cultures and countries, and can help with national and international relocation issues associated with divorce. You can visit us at our offices in Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and San Diego, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.

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