Disclaimer: This article does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation it is best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.
Though Brad and Angelina have tried to keep their divorce private, now and again details surface. Usually it’s because the couple have hit some new roadblock with deciding what to do about the kids. Although their children are extremely important to them, they haven’t yet found a way to agree on how to co-parent effectively. It’s an unfortunate paradox that divorcing couples need to loosen their grip on the most emotional topic on the table – the kids – but in doing this, the divorce process can actually serve the children’s best interests, not the parents’.
Celebrity Divorce is Tough on Kids
Though celebrities are just like every-day people in some ways, celebrity divorces are different. Unfortunately this can mean a drawn-out process that affects the children adversely, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Let’s take a look at why celebrity divorce is different:
– Complex Child Support and Finance Issues: The latest upheaval in the Jolie-Pitt divorce centers around child support calculations. Ordinary California divorces are calculated in such a way that a computer formula decides child support, with other contributions (such as extracurricular activities and the costs of travel) calculated outside this. Celebrities or those with income in excess of this this find themselves in a different ballpark where negotiations can be more treacherous. In mediation, agreements to pay child support can be locked down in a thorough but also flexible way. Complex finances don’t have to be an obstacle. At Boileau Conflict Solutions our mediator-accountants are experts in divorce and taxation. The process drives towards a thorough understanding of the net community property and how to maximize it. Celebrities often have a number of properties, so buying and selling can be similar to selling assets in a business, requiring timeliness and cooperation. Rather than parties making haphazard financial gestures such as offering a loan, a thorough analysis will ground a step by step plan for parties to contribute to each other’s future wellbeing. Once parties are committed to a plan, there can be timelines for payment, automatic payments set up, and the option of communicating through technology such as apps that manage parenting plans and payment schedules. Where computer calculations aren’t built to handle complex divorces, algorithms like fair division mathematics and game theory can take over (we use these in our practice to give couples a transparent way of understanding their net property).
– Emotional Concerns and Child Development: Angelina and Brad’s divorce began with conflict over parenting, substance abuse issues and control. With these beginnings, conflict was always likely. Some of the agreements that Brad and Angelina made, such as to have Brad’s visits supervised by a therapist, could have been made as part of a mediation process. In a comprehensive, psychoanalytically-focused mediation, parties are more likely to feel that these agreements are chosen, rather than imposed on them. At Boileau Conflict Solutions we are psychoanalytically trained mediators who use sensitive tools to adapt to the conflict and needs of the situation. The needs and developmental level of children can also be taken into account. Though the couple may no longer be married, there are plenty of approaches that can help them understand their communication dynamic. As the wisdom goes, you may divorce your partner, but you co-parent for life.
Who We Are
We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. The sooner you can resolve your conflict, the sooner you can begin to craft a sustainable future for you and your children. Our specially trained divorce mediator-accountants can also help reveal and investigate the proven financial facts of a divorce to make a full financial appraisal of your divorce and to suggest creative solutions for financial planning after divorce. Our high-level divorce mediation services are tailored to the needs of people with complex lives or divorces that may be difficult or protracted. We can intervene to break litigation deadlocks when divorces are already underway. We work with individuals from several cultures and countries, and can help with national and international relocation issues associated with divorce. You can visit us at our offices in Boulder, CO, Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and Beverly Hills, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.