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Don’t Let Back to School Season Get You Down! Turn to Mediation to Help Work Out Your Co-Parenting Schedule

Back to school season as a divorced parent can be a real trial. Whether you are in the middle of a divorce or you have been co-parenting for a while, changes in your child’s school curriculum or schedule can call for adjustments and negotiation.

And you thought the endless talks were over…

When you got divorced with children you likely had many discussions — and disagreements — with your divorcing partner over how you would co-parent together. At the beginning, these arrangements may be temporary, but over time they can solidify. However they can always be changed. In mediation, you agree to have these discussions in the presence of a neutral third party. At BCS, our neutrals are experts in finance, the law and psychoanalysis. Back to school can be a stressful time, because what’s best for your kids (what subjects they take at school, how their study hours are monitored), aren’t questions with simple answers. We apply focused interventions (such as game theory, communication theory and psychoanalysis) that are not available if you are working out your divorce in a legal setting. Getting organized–packing your child’s school lunch, monitoring their homework–is about care! Therefore a multi-level approach (practical, mathematical/financial and psychoanalytical) will put you on a better footing. We can also factor in your child’s development level — and their own perspective — on what they need.

Routine is good for kids if everything else is in chaos

No matter what your situation, you can work out an arrangement that provides stability for your kids. Here are some situations in which mediation can help you:

– You are trying to work out a temporary custody schedule before your divorce is finalized. A lack of trust is preventing you from acting promptly for your child’s wellbeing.
– You are trying to work out a longer term arrangement with your co-parent that has to be flexible and suit both your needs
– You need to modify your parenting plan because your co-parent is moving or their schedule is changing
– You need to modify your parenting plan because your child is growing out of it or their schedule is changing
– You are trying to work with a high-conflict co-parent or difficult dynamic, so conflict is an ongoing part of your routine

You can’t parent alone (unless you choose), so co-operation is the best way to get you there when you need to update or finalize a parenting plan. At BCS we can help you draft a parenting plan from the beginning, update an existing arrangement, or provide ongoing conflict management for your co-parenting arrangement.

Who We Are and How We Can Help

We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Our high-level divorce mediation services are tailored to the needs of people with complex lives. We can intervene to break litigation deadlocks when divorces are already underway. We work with individuals from several cultures and countries, and can help with national and international relocation issues associated with divorce. You can visit us at our offices in Boulder, CO, Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and Beverly Hills, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.

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