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Olympic Gymnast Reveals the Secret to Discreet Divorce: Mediation

Disclaimer: This article does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation it is best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.

Olympic gymnast Mary Lou Retton recently made headlines when she came out and revealed she had got divorced back in February. She made the announcement on “Dancing with the Stars” 7 months after the divorce happened. Retton announced that she and her ex-husband still loved each other but “weren’t great together.” The announcement was sudden but heartfelt, yet most importantly it was in Retton’s own words, not leaked by the media.

Discreet Divorce for Celebrity Spouses

For celebrity spouses who want to get divorced, who care about each other and have children together (as Retton does with her spouse), mediation can be a great way of limiting the damage of divorce in the public eye. Mediation is a completely confidential process. It can cover a range of concerns including financial, emotional, career, kids — even the timing of the announcement itself. At Boileau Conflict Solutions we are equipped with a range of tools to resolve conflict and assist people to come to an agreement in their divorces. A multi-level approach, using mathematical and psychoanalytical tools like game theory and communication treats divorces as problems of a logistical, emotional and even spiritual nature, that do have smart solutions if partners are willing to co-operate.

Timing and Privacy – Why Mediation is Better for Celebrities in the Public Eye

Divorce for celebrities can be painful, especially those with children involved. Doing divorce the traditional way, i.e. by litigating the divorce or hiring a lawyer, is likely to expose you to public scrutiny. There are a number of ways mediation can help you keep your divorce private and give you more control over the process:

– Divorce mediation is a confidential process. Aside from financial disclosure which may be required of you, your negotiations with your ex can be kept private (even if you do decide to go to court later).

– Mediation sessions proceed according to a flexible schedule. This is important for people working in the entertainment industry who may have to travel or spend a lot of time on set. It also means that your negotiations can happen in a location of your choosing away from the scrutiny of the media.

– You can negotiate with your divorcing partner about when and how to make your divorce announcement. In divorce mediation you and your spouse are the joint owners of your divorce. When your divorcing partner is on the other side of the fence, you have no control over how they deal with their divorce. In mediation you can both decide how best to make the information public without one spouse deciding to confess to a media outlet (revealing details about your relationship and upsetting your kids).

Who We Are and How We Can Help

We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Conflict analysis can result in a more optimized understanding of the net community property, which adds value to the overall estate, benefiting you both. The sooner you can resolve your conflict, the sooner you can begin to craft a sustainable future for you and your children. Our specially trained divorce mediator-accountants can also help reveal and investigate the proven financial facts of a divorce to make a full financial appraisal of your divorce and to suggest creative solutions for financial planning after divorce. Our high-level divorce mediation services are tailored to the needs of people with complex lives or divorces that may be difficult or protracted. We can intervene to break litigation deadlocks when divorces are already underway. We work with individuals from several cultures and countries, and can help with national and international relocation issues associated with divorce. You can visit us at our offices in Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and San Diego, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.

Further Reading

https://www.cnn.com/2018/10/30/entertainment/mary-lou-retton-divorced/index.html

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