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Technology to the Rescue: How Online Mediation Can Save your Divorce during Covid-19

Never have we been so reliant on our electronic communication — our Netlix, Spotify and Zoom accounts — to maintain our sense of connection with the outside world. Zoom meetings, once the preserve of corporate huddles, are now used to host remote social gatherings.

Though the Coronavirus has made the future so much more uncertain, we can still find ways to hold on to our sense of agency and take control. Divorce is no exception: if you want to proceed with your divorce negotiations and hold on to your sense of normalcy, online mediation can come to the rescue of stalled divorce negotiations and couples living under the same roof who no longer want to be married any more but need some help making the transition.

There is so much to negotiate at the end of any marriage or cohabiting relationship that taking some time to plan before splitting up may actually be good for your divorce. Especially in the context of the global financial uncertainty, making very careful plans to weather the storm is smarter than trying to win each other’s assets in a contest involving laywers and courts. The mediators at Boileau Conflict Solutions use a set of psychoanalytical and mathematical tools to help you resolve your divorce negotiations in the most peaceful way, while optimizing your mutual finances. As well as legal, psychoanalytical and mathematical expertise, we are also financial experts. We can empower you to make the right decisions about your mutual assets during these troubled times by helping you make a detailed financial plan.

Online mediation is accessible to anyone with an internet connection, whether you are still living under the same roof as your divorcing partner, or have already separated. The technology we are using for our international and out of state clients can be easily accessed by anyone who wants to move their divorce negotiations online. This includes videoconferencing, DocuSign and email. Mediation is a completely private and confidential process, thus all our communications are secured by a private, encrypted server.

If you are not mediating your divorce but held up by delayed court schedules, mediation is a great way of “keeping calm and carrying on.” You can resolve certain outstanding issues in mediation that don’t depend on the courts. You may even decide to move entirely to mediation, which is a cheaper option and usually resolves faster than litigation. If you are still living under the same roof as your spouse, divorce mediation can also help you make interim arrangements and set boundaries to make living together easier. You can also learn strategies for improving your communication that can help your relationships long after your divorce mediation has concluded.

Who we are and How We Can Help

We are caring, well-educated mediators who are skilled in applied financial mathematics, the law psychoanalysis, and game theory. We strive to efficiently comprehend your situation and its opportunities for sustainable and agreeable resolution. This may include a review of your parenting plan, spousal support calculations, community property equalization, settlement agreement, and all other aspects of your case. We can either confidentially present you with a private analysis, or mediate the conflict with both of you until resolved. Any resolution you come to will be informed by a deeper analysis of the conflict that can be psychoanalytic and/or more financially-focused. Conflict analysis can result in a more optimized understanding of the net community property, which adds value to the overall estate, benefiting you both. Our specially trained divorce mediator-accountants can also help reveal and investigate the proven financial facts of a divorce to make a full financial appraisal of your divorce and to suggest creative solutions for financial planning after divorce. If you are struggling in your marriage but don’t want to get divorced, or if you are having trouble relating to your ex (especially if you still live together), or getting on the same page about parenting during Covid-19, mediation can help you regain stability in your relationships and protect your children from conflict. We work with individuals from several cultures and countries, and can help with national and international relocation issues associated with divorce, especially with current travel restrictions and border controls. You can visit us at our offices in Campbell, CA, Irvine, CA and San Diego, CA. We can also be reached by Telephone, Zoom or Facetime. We are available 7 days a week and at urgent notice. Please contact us to see how we can help.

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